Be Honest: Autistic vs Neurotypical Honesty

Flow chart with 6 boxes. Top box: Autistic person saying something to a neurotypical. Next box - Neurotypical black box of thinking/emtoions/concepts. Box 1A - Neurotypical Negative Reaction, Box 2A - Autistic person knows to never say those words to anyone ever again. Box 1B - Neurotypical positive reaction. Box 2B - Autistic person knows they can say those words to that one neurotypical in that one context.

I’ve learned a lot recently after asking allistic people on twitter what they truly want to hear from other people when allistic people say “be honest.” Most of them want a very specific “type” of honesty. At least, neurotypical people may consider this honesty.

PRESS RELEASE FROM AUTISTIC SELF-ADVOCATES REGARDING THE COLOR THE SPECTRUM EVENT AND NEXT FOR AUTISM

Press release from autistic self-advocates from the general public regarding, A livestream to support the autism community. Color the spectrum. Mark Rober and Jimmy Kimmel Friday April 30th

Press release from autistic self-advocates regarding the Color the Spectrum event and Next for Autism.

An Open Letter to the Autistic Community Regarding Color the Spectrum

Youtube Originals presents in partnership with Next for Autism, A livestream to support the autism community. Color the spectrum. Mark Rober and Jimmy Kimmel Friday April 30th

A small group of autistic advocates have an announcement regarding the color the spectrum event.

Talking Yourself Up in a Neurotypical World

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The difficulty of this task has real consequences for autistic people and contributes to our high unemployment rate, including autistic people with high educational backgrounds. We often undersell ourselves, but only because many neurotypical people have no problem embellishing their traits.

Autistic Anxiety

Picture of palm of someone's hand with a blue background and light spots. Hand has a button in it that's painted purple and says you are loved in white letters.

Honestly, this misinterpretation of my signals is one of the things I have struggled with the most for my entire life. It’s caused me a lot of fear and pain. And so many non-autistic people don’t see it. They don’t see the problem and they don’t see how they misinterpret me. To them, I don’t have a disability, I am just judgment #1, judgment #2, and judgment #3.

The Intersection of Queerness and Disability

aerial photography of cars on the road. A truck in the middle of a big yellow X above a busy intersection.

No matter what, people will make assumptions. Both ableism and cisnormativity are baked into our brains and our society. The things people have to do to accommodate us and acknowledge us involves unlearning their preconceptions.

The Spoiled Brat Stereotype and Autistic Children

Person with green jacket and jeans sitting on a dock with long hair, face looking away from camera.

My autistic traits were obvious! But the Spoiled Brat archetype worked against the assumption that I needed support, and instead adults believed I needed chastising or ignoring.

Dear Autistic Kid, on being at home

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It's okay to be not okay, and to take some time to adjust to everything. For many of us autistic people it may take a lot longer to adjust, and that's okay!