These are resources for:

  • autistic maskers of any gender
  • newly diagnosed autistic people/questioning if autistic
  • neurotypicals and non-autistics
  • parents of autistic people

For Parents New to Autism:

Parent of an autistic child on how they shifted their parenting perspective:

How to talk about your autistic kid, when asking autistic adults:

Explanation of why functioning labels are harmful:

How to Understand and Model Autistic Kid’s Needs/Emotional Regulation:

Why ABA is harmful to autistic people:

Other supports and therapies that can be helpful, that are not ABA:

Books and Lectures:

Auditory Sensitivity or Hyperacusis: List of ear protection from autistic adults

For Understanding Autistic People:

For social skills/understanding Neurotypicals:

  • Making Friends Strategies to improve social understanding and friendship skills (good for parents and younger autistic people)
  • Living Well On the Spectrum (very good for emotional regulation and some social cues – has worksheets in the back) by Dr. Valerie Gaus
  • Best book I’ve found for understanding neurotypicals:
  • A Field Guide to Earthlings: An autistic/Asperger view of neurotypical behavior by Ian Ford (sample of the book is here)
  • (^One caveat to the above book – ignore the “sex” chapter – it has very bad advice. All other chapters are good though. More for autistic adults but some of the metaphors at the beginning of the book are very helpful, likely even to younger autistic people.)

For Unlearning Ableism:

Youtube channels:

These are autistic people explaining their experiences and some basic terms as well, such as how to understand meltdowns, sensory processing issues, or eye contact/body language in autistic people:

Blog Posts about the Problems with Masking as an Autistic Person

Very important, amazing blog post on masking and mental health by the Pecan Gallery

Wonderful blog post by Spectrumy about masking and mental health

Wonderful blog post by an NT mom and experiences of her autistic daughter

Wonderful blog post by Yenn Purkis on autism and mental health

Wonderful interview with Kieran Rose on #AskKerrie about masking and mental health

Here’s a giant list of actually autistic bloggers

Social Media:

Also check out the #ActuallyAutistic hashtag on twitter (please respect that only autistic people may use that particular hashtag), as well as #TaketheMaskOff

#AskingAutistics is also helpful for asking us questions for better understanding (feel free to use this hashtag, NT or autistic, if you have questions about autistic experiences or need resources on a particular topic).

Helpful communication tools:

AAC apps (which you can obtain on an iPad or other tablet for communicating via symbols/pictures/phrases/words)

text-to-speech apps on phones (such as Emergency Chat, my favorite is Talk FREE as you can store phrases to use later)

Specific AAC and RPM resource list

These really cool laminated communication cards and key ring for disclosing autism or for communicating in a crisis or meltdown.

Learning a few signs in ASL can be helpful for communicating during a shutdown or meltdown, especially words like “yes” “no” “don’t want” “want” etc.

Flow Chart for why Talking is Hard for Us:

How To Talk
Flowchart description here

Oh and Fantastic Mr. Fox is an amazing movie, so I’m going to continue using this gif very far down the page:

Mother from Fantastic Mr. Fox: “I know what it’s like to feel, different.” *waves hands*

9 thoughts on “Resources

  1. I’d like to recommend Howard Leight Impact Sport (for compact) and Impact Pro (for very quiet) ear protection. They might get some odd looks, but I have both and I love them for when things get noisy. I just wish they had a passive headphone connection rather than an active one, as turning them on allows sound in, opposite of how noise-cancelling headphones work.

    I actually have the Impact Sport Bolt, not the Impact Sport, but I don’t recommend that one, as it is digital and unless you want to hear more of your surroundings, I prefer the analogue circuitry of the standard model (the Impact Pro uses the analog circuitry). The analog version is fine, whereas the digital circuitry uses heavy compression, making sounds feel uncomfortable for long periods of time; it makes sounds grate on the ears more.


  2. Sorry! I almost forgot a very important detail! Get some Prohear gel pads for Howard Leight devices! They are 100% worth the added comfort and better sound seal.

    And note that the slim muffs are actually pretty cool looking, while the Pro ones are GIANT and will probably turn heads.


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