Autistic Anxiety

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Honestly, this misinterpretation of my signals is one of the things I have struggled with the most for my entire life. It’s caused me a lot of fear and pain. And so many non-autistic people don’t see it. They don’t see the problem and they don’t see how they misinterpret me. To them, I don’t have a disability, I am just judgment #1, judgment #2, and judgment #3.

The Spoiled Brat Stereotype and Autistic Children

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My autistic traits were obvious! But the Spoiled Brat archetype worked against the assumption that I needed support, and instead adults believed I needed chastising or ignoring.

Dear Autistic Kid, on being at home

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It's okay to be not okay, and to take some time to adjust to everything. For many of us autistic people it may take a lot longer to adjust, and that's okay!

Dear Autistic Kid, on meltdowns and shame

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Remember that it’s okay to be autistic. It’s okay to wear headphones or sunglasses, or use weighted blankets or fidget toys (lots of us autistic adults do!). It’s okay to want things a certain way. It’s okay to not look into people’s eyes. It’s okay to be you. Don’t let people, or society in general, take that away from you.

Dear Autistic Kid, on school and isolation

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I want to let you know that autistic adults are here. Autistic adults exist. Most of us have had tough experiences in elementary school and junior high school. Personally, I felt rather isolated growing up in school.

Adult Misdiagnosis – The Default Path to an Autistic Identity

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This post consists of 46 quotes from autistic people. If you can, please read them all. Please listen to autistic voices.

Why Autism Research Isn’t For Autistic People

In the US, you can’t be an autism researcher in most labs without accepting the pathological model of autism. You must reference old research, mostly done by white cisgender male researchers on white cisgender autistic boys. You must talk about the deficits of theory of mind and the difficulties in social communication. I’ve seen at …

Transitioning to Graduate School: StairwayToStem

In case you missed it, I recently wrote a guest blog post on StairwayToStem, a website which provides resources for helping autistic students transition to college and graduate school. They kindly split up the series into 3 parts for me: Part 1: Transitioning to Grad School and Adjusting to the New Environment Part 2: Challenges …

Autistic Horror Tropes – #BoycottProdigy

White boy with blonde and green hair and freckles, with glasses on leaning on a building, looking past the camera with mouth slightly open. Wearing a purple hoodie with neon green on the inside of it. A bridge by a city is in the background of the image.

[discussed: ableism, cure rhetoric, abuse] (One caveat here: I know nothing about film making, and I'm not trying to say I do in this post. I'm also not trying to assume that everything I say here will be true or happen in the movie - but they did make a trailer, and that is what …

Autistic (and Neurotypical Lack Of) Effort

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[CW: ableism/NT misinterpretation] Autistic people get run over, socially speaking, especially in new environments or with new people (and unfortunately it can be with people you know, too). I've been yelled at at least three times by medical professionals, and also by a patient because I failed to close the door within one second of …